Bye Durham or Bye in General

Today I know I’m gonna have to face my Durham University perfection phase.

When I was searching for Universities, I found a lot of top ones, cool and all, but no one that really caught my attention…

It had my perfect balance of quiet city and nature, and it looked amazing in all the seasons. When I got my conditional offer, my sisters and I would look at their Instagram post and marvel at how pretty the place looked. To be honest, Durham, looked like it was made for me😂

But things changed and now I’m doing Fashion. I am not writing this post to over-flog yesterday’s post, but this is something I needed to address.

I’ve realized that before I can genuinely pick and feel a connection to another school for Fashion, I have to first release Durham from my heart and mind, if not, it will always be a standard for me and I may not be satisfied with any school. It’s just like when your heart belongs to someone else and it is hard for you to fully commit to another, until the feelings reduce, fade or heal…

So here I am… Durham was an amazing university and still is. Now I don’t know about course wise because I haven’t tried it, but the setting and beauty-wise it really got me.

I am the kind of person that when I search for Universities, I look for trees or lakes – I need some kind of greenery or natural body of water because those things calm me and help me feel more in tune with myself. Durham had all of this, and it has been hard to pick a new University knowing that, because it’s like no one I see can meet up to that standard…

I want to be able to look at another school without comparing it to the last😪 So first I have to release Durham. So this is my ode to Durham:

Durham was a beautiful university…

Going up the hill to get to the tutorial- hell yeah! (Although that is probably more exciting in my head)

The tress paved paths and the beautiful bridge over the beautiful body of water…

I was gonna be in University accommodation – where they acted parts of Harry Potter, I was gonna live in a Castle! 😪

As beautiful as the place was, now I have to leave it behind…

Durham will never stop being beautiful in my eyes, who knows I might even visit it while I’m in school, but now we must part.

Bye Durham…

A lot of times, we all have things or people like this. Past things that we still keep as standards in our lives and though sometimes it’s okay because you I believe you should always go for what you want and not settle… But please, don’t let those standards hold you back from happiness in your future endeavors.

Relive those standards once more, appreciate them in that moment and let them go… Let them go so you can truly move on and appreciate the new things that are coming your way.

It won’t be easy… When I was writing a letter to retract their application, it hurt and even this post hurts, but we have to release the past in other to make space for what we want in the future…

Lots of love❤ Adanma

And Bye Durham❤